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Top 100 Military Wife Blogs

Sun, 2017-08-27 17:13 -- Jocelyn Green
Just a quick post today to let you in on a nice surprise. Somehow, this blog right here was named in the Top 100 Military Wife Blogs on the planet! Wow! Check out the full list here. I see several worthy blogs that I have followed for years. Bravo! If you're stopping by this blog for the first time, let me give you the quick run-down. I've written or co-written several books for military wives/families, including:  Faith Deployed: Daily Encouragement for Military Wives Faith Deployed . . .Again: More Daily Encouragement for Military Wives (pictured below with some milwives in Virginia!) Stories of Faith and Courage from the War in Iraq & Afghanistan Stories of Faith and Courage from the Home Front Military Wives' New Testament with Psalms & Proverbs The 5 Love Languages Military Edition (with Dr. Gary Chapman) My other nonfiction books, Refresh: Spiritual Nourishment for Parents of Children with Special Needs, and my new release, Free to Lean: Making Peace with Your Lopsided Life, both incorporate stories and examples from military and civilian women. Pictured below is military wife Natalie Walters with her copy. You can read her review on Goodreads here. Visit my nonfiction page to see a short summary of each book. But I also write American historical fiction set in the 1700s and 1800s, inspired by real people and events. And so far, every story has a main character with some connection to the military, whether it's soldier, surgeon, scout, chaplain, veteran, or spy. I'm not sure how long this trend will continue, but so far, it has been true for six novels (one to be published in February 2018) and one novella. As a former military wife, it's been fulfilling to bring military family dynamics and themes of freedom and liberty to life. See descriptions of my fiction here. For those of you who have been following the Faith Deployed or Jocelyn Green Facebook page for a while, were there any titles on this list you hadn't heard about already? Whether you're a fiction or nonfiction reader, I'm glad you're here! Take a look around, and if you like what you see, be sure to sign up for my e-newsletter in the footer below, to be notified of new releases. Thanks!

Leaving War, Finding Love: A Veteran's Transition

Wed, 2017-08-23 11:18 -- Jocelyn Green
Today it's my pleasure to welcome to the blog Hillary Sigrist! Hillary is an award-winning author, former military wife, mother of three, and child of God. Married to a special operations solider throughout the course of this decade's Middle Eastern conflicts, she developed a passion for helping her fellow patriot wives, both former and present. Her first book Warrior Wife: Overcoming the Unique Struggles of a Military Marriage, was published in 2015, and has won multiple awards. After her husband separated from active duty, they moved to raise their family under the western skies of the Sierra Mountains.  I've invited her to the blog to share with us about her latest release, Leaving War, Finding War: A Veteran's Transition. As many of you know, our military families have been dear to my heart since I was a military wife myself. I appreciate that this new book from Hillary speaks both to the veteran and the spouse. Take it away, Hilllary! * * * * * *  Our lives are all stories that haven’t been completed yet. As a storyteller, we get to share in the journey of humanity through the pages we pen. Sometimes that story is told through information that the reader applies for understanding and equipping of life’s journeys. Other times a story may have no direct cause/effect but is intended for the tale itself. In my book Leaving War, Finding Love: A Veteran’s Transition, I explored the foundation of a story, about our country’s service members, and more specifically, that of their wives. After a decade and a half war that holds no end in sight, our country has experienced in the most vivid sense “war fatigue.”  Even in the military community, a deployment to a war zone is not about if, but when. With each passing year we’ve sent off new generations of warfighters and brought them home changed; some for the better, some not for the better.  War is a story unlike any other. Media likes to romanticize the idea of battle and heroism, but so often these recapturing’s are incomplete. They’ve become guilty of rolling end credits where it should be a mere chapter break. However, with the promise of entertainment, society is left out of the continuing story. Leaving War, Finding Love is the next chapter, one that transitions the reader to the next development in the journey.  Yet to understand this you need to know about Joe. Joe is not real. He is not based on anyone. Truly I took his name from the character G.I. Joe.   But, Joe is the story of the veteran who comes home. The one who leaves active service...four, eight, fifteen, twenty years after he joined. Joe is about to enter a battlefield of a different enemy. An adversary he was likely not ready to face. Military Transition. Joe served over a decade in the Special Operations (SOF) community. He was considered the tip of the spear and he equally considered those he worked with as such. His job, although difficult and dangerous, gave him purpose. He loved what he did because it was his passion, the passion to be a part of something bigger than yourself. When Joe came home for the final time, he had completed eight tours of duty overseas. By all means, Joe was 'ready' to be done. No longer the fresh-faced boy of eighteen, he had grown into a man during his time of service and now was ready to settle down and start a family.  When he left the base that last day, he was nervous about the future, questioning how he was going to provide for his family; but he was also excited about finally having the time for all the things he'd been missing. And, lastly, he felt prepared. After all, two months of terminal leave pay would set him up for an easy transition.  Or so he thought. Within the two years since Joe left active service, he has struggled with identity, who he is (if he isn't an Operator) and where that purpose he had before can be found now. He has wrestled with depression and guilt. Racked up credit card debt and changed jobs a few too many times. He has isolated himself from everyone, especially his wife. He has suffered from insomnia, alcoholism, and anger. And Joe's marriage is completely falling apart! Joe isn't who he thought he'd be and he isn't who he wants to be. This is military transition! This is the part of military service that no one really thinks about, the ending. For most of us, we believe coming home from war was the battle's end and therefore a successful finish. But for many veterans, the battle lingers long after they've returned. We need to be aware that the journey home doesn't always end at the front door.  In Leaving War, Finding Love: A Veteran's Transition you'll discover what I've determined as Military Separation Anxiety (MSA). You'll read about how that term clearly outlines the aspects of transition that is different than someone having PTSD. What has before only been referred to as transition issues, I've now given a name. In doing so, as a community, we may be better prepared for how to understand MSA, and therefore can properly handle its effects. MSA is Joe's story but Leaving War, Finding Love is Jane's.   Jane is Joe's wife. You see, Leaving War, Finding Love is different than any book of its kind not just because it deals with MSA but because it was written to Jane. The Veteran's Wife. The one who needs to understand the importance of a Veteran's transition as much as the Veteran himself does. This book describes why the wife plays a key role in a veteran's successful transition!  If you know someone in the military who is preparing to leave service or has already left (doesn't matter the length), you need to let them or their significant other know about this book.  This isn't a widely known topic, because oftentimes it is misrepresented by the PTSD stigma or because our brave men and women are suffering in silence. After almost twenty years of the longest war in American history, you can bet that Leaving War, Finding Love is extremely timely!  My prayer for this book is that God uses it to reach those in need and that together we can complete the last leg of the journey home as a country of strong military families! Find this book at Goodreads, Barnes and Noble, Amazon,

A Prayer for Veterans

Wed, 2015-11-11 07:00 -- Kathy
Heavenly Father, I lift up to you all the Veterans of the Armed Forces. The men and women who gave unselfishly Serving 24/7 365 days a year For the freedoms this country holds dearly. I pray you fill their minds with peace When there is turmoil and confusion. Replace the anger from the evil they’ve seen With the righteous anger of your children. When they feel lost and completely alone, I pray they sense your presence always near. In the nights when anxiety and nightmares linger, Help them remember they have nothing to fear. If they start to question why they’re still alive, Gently guide them to your plan each day. When they don’t like who they’ve become, Let them be overwhelmed by your acceptance, I pray. When they try to run from you and their life, Show them they can’t escape your love. Fill them with the hope, peace, mercy, and grace, Showered down from above. Lord, help us to accept, support, and encourage them, As they adjust to the new normal they live. I pray we never overlook their tremendous sacrifices, And all they were willing to give. I thank you for their example of loyalty and courage. I pray we honor, and lift them up in prayer daily. Lord, thank you for blessing the United States of America, Through the Veterans of the United States Military.  

Military Marriage: Mission Possible–Staying Together Apart

Tue, 2015-05-12 11:35 -- Jocelyn Green
In honor of Military Family Appreciation Month, today we have with us guest blogger Marshele Carter Waddell. She is an author, speaker, and veteran wife of a Navy SEAL. Her book Hope for the Home Front encouraged me so much as a military bride, and I have been so blessed that she also contributed to several of my own books for milwives! We hope this post blesses you! I browsed the “marriage and relationship” section of my local Christian bookstore.  My heart was heavy, missing my husband…again.  I tilted my head to read the colorful spines of the latest releases offering proven ideas about how to strengthen and nurture my marriage.  The deployments, the distance and the passing of so much time had taken its toll on the most important relationship in my life. I selected two promising titles, paid at the register and looked forward to putting my head on my pillow that night to search the pages for the overdue nourishment my hungry marriage needed.  With the kids tucked and settled in, I did the same.   I cracked open the first book, convinced I would uncover the keys to rekindling the dying embers of a relationship weathered by this crazy military lifestyle. My high hopes soon dissolved into hilarity.  “Have a candlelight dinner,” the list began.  One place setting?  “Give each other fifteen-minute back rubs,” I read and snickered out loud.  “Tuck a love note in his lunch.”  Wouldn’t that ruin an MRE?  This is ridiculous, I thought, my comedienne quickly morphing into a sour cynic.  “Go for a scenic drive together.  Plan a romantic picnic.  Have a pillow fight.  Spend an evening in front of the fireplace.” My eyes grew hot and filled with tears.  Instead of equipping me with creative marriage-building ideas, the authors’ well-meaning counsel cut me to the quick.  At least 95% of their proven strategies were simply impossible for us as a military couple to attempt.  The miles and the months that routinely separate us render most marriage books and seminars pointless, even painful. Over the years, I’ve compiled my own list to live by, gleaning what I can from friends, articles and books.  More often, I’ve learned from experience what strengthens and sweetens a military marriage.  Here are a few ideas to try: Listen to “your” song.  Hit the replay button.  Let it stir sweet memories of times spent together.  Write your sweetheart an intimate love letter reassuring him/her of your devotion and giving him/her something to look forward to. Don’t fall into the e-trap.  While email is very handy and speedy, nothing replaces a letter penned by your own hand.  Spritz your letters with your perfume and seal it with a kiss. Spice up your lover’s mail box.  In addition to handwritten letters, send personalized, homemade audio cassettes, CDs, and DVDs for your loved one to enjoy.  Discreet intimate cards and gifts don’t hurt either. Create your own web site together.  Post all your news and latest photos weekly for your sweetheart.  Invite other family members to add their two cents, too. Have fun putting together personalized care packages for your spouse.   Keep an open box at your bedside.  When you are out doing errands and see something that your sweetheart would enjoy, buy it and toss it in the box when you get home.  Send your care packages every 2-3 weeks during the deployment. Create a blog and write a daily online journal to keep your loved one up to date. Keep a phone journal.  Jot down things that you want to tell your spouse when he/she calls.  Rule of thumb:  always say “I love you” before anything else, just in case you lose connection. Commit to improving your health and physical fitness while your loved one is away.  Work out.  Buy some up-to-date clothes.  Get an edgy hair style and brighten up with highlights.  Be sure to tell your honey that you are doing these things for him/her and that you look forward to your reunion. Choose something that happens occasionally in nature, i.e., a full moon, a brilliant rainbow, or a shooting star, and agree together that while you are apart, when one of you sees this, it will serve as quiet reminder of your committed love for one another. Celebrate missed birthdays and anniversaries anyway!  Take photos of the cake you made for him, blow out his candles, sing him Happy Birthday and send them in your next care package.  He’ll never forget your thoughtfulness. Spruce up his home office, den and/or garage work bench while he is away.  No mauve or lavender, please.  Use his favorite masculine colors and motif.  He’ll have a daily reminder of your affection upon his return. Scan photos of just the two of you.  Better yet, find the pre-kids snapshots.  Write personal captions for each one and send them in your next letter or care package. Plan a couple’s getaway to take place soon after his/her homecoming.  Make arrangements for your children to stay with family or friends.  You’ll have fun planning and anticipating it.  Having a mini-honeymoon to look forward to will brighten many a moment for both of you. I haven’t given up on marriage books entirely.  I just read their advice and keep in mind that most marriages never have to face the challenges that mine does.  I consider their suggestions and ask myself how we as a military couple can creatively apply them.  A successful military marriage requires a hero in the field and also a hero at home, both investing their physical and emotional energies into a relationship stressed and stretched by service. Before you go... Psst! If you haven't already, be sure to enter the drawing for military wives we have going on right now! The prizes available include The 5 Love Languages Military Edition, Stories of Faith & Courage from the Home Front, and Military Wives' New Testament with Psalms & Proverbs! Click here and follow the instructions at the bottom of the post to enter! [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1242", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft size-full wp-image-2434", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"200", "height":"280", "alt":"marshelecartrwaddell"}}]]About Marshele: A 25-year wife of a U.S. Navy SEAL, Marshele Carter Waddell is author of Hope for the Home Front: Winning the Emotional and Spiritual Battles of the Military Wife, Hope for the Home Front Bible Study, and co-author of When War Comes Home: Christ-centered Healing for Wives of Combat Veterans. She is also a contributor to Faith Deployed: Daily Encouragement for Military Wives. Visit Marshéle’s Web site at  www.hopeforthehomefront.com.

The Great Equalizer

Sun, 2013-05-26 08:46 -- Jocelyn Green
by Donna Tallman Gently and quietly he clicks the door shut on his sedan so that even the breeze is unruffled. He deliberately walks toward the oldest row of graves in Section 60. His perfect posture looks military-trained, while the lines on his face mark him Vietnam era. Always focused forward, the eyes of the man in his sixties hone in on one of the markers at the far end. Finally, he reaches the right one and slowly kneels in the grass. The grieving father bows his head. Some have said that hospital waiting rooms are the great equalizers of life – that injury and sickness recognize no social class, no ethnic divide, and no age category. All are equally at risk. Cemeteries are even more equalizing than waiting rooms. None recovers here. The father does not tarry long at his son’s grave. He’s not really here to visit him. Instead, he has come to care for the living. While no one else dares interrupt a widow’s vigil out of respect for her grief, the father does. This tender, caring man can approach where others never should. He is a fellow sufferer, a tempest traveler…one who knows first hand the cost of war. The father begins his rounds of visitation to the daughters he has adopted in the graveyard. He knows each one by name and checks on their welfare. Over the months they have all visited Arlington to grieve alone together; this unlikely group has grown from being intimate strangers among the tombstones, to caretakers of one another’s sorrow. While he knows that he cannot bring his son home from Afghanistan, the father seeks to heal the history death attempts to write in each of their hearts. Rising above his own agony, he reaches out to care for those around him, and in the process, finds refuge for his own soul. Yes, Arlington is a graveyard, a place of the dead. It is also a showcase for valor, a field of honor for America’s most courageous soldiers. And for those knit together by the Iraq and Afghanistan wars, Arlington is a place of healing from war’s ultimate sacrifice. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3). Prayer: When life’s raging tempest threatens to break my heart and my spirit, would you, oh Lord, step in with Your authority and restore calm to the churning waves around me? Deliver me and bind up any wounds incurred by my sojourn here on earth. *This devotion is an excerpt from Stories of Faith and Courage from the War in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Free Because of Sacrifice

Sat, 2013-05-25 08:43 -- Jocelyn Green
by Donna Tallman Step by determined step I walk on through Arlington Cemetery.  A car passes on my left, then another and another. The procession of mourners drives by in slow motion making its way to the grave site. A color guard stands at attention near a freshly dug grave. A bugler waits for his call, and a squad of seven riflemen stands across the field for their moment of tribute. Cicadas hum just below the surface of unspeakable grief. I hurry under a tree, not suitably dressed for a funeral nor invited by the family; but here by circumstance in my nation’s field of honor. He is my soldier. Beautiful in its simplicity, the military funeral proceeds with expected precision.  A minister addresses the young crowd of mourners. The flag covering the soldier’s coffin is folded and given to today’s grieving widow whose two restless toddlers squirm next to her. She bows her head in anguished respect - uncertain the nation is truly grateful for her sacrifice, but so very proud of the hero her husband is. The riflemen give a twenty-one gun salute matched by twenty-one unexpected echoes from another burial in progress on the cemetery grounds. The shots of honor reverberate back and forth across the valley as if to emphasize the sobering cost of freedom. The cicadas pick up their song again whirring louder and louder until I feel them pounding in my ears. Looking up through the tree, I see that a helicopter has joined their cacophony giving tribute to this fallen hero. The bugler closes with the mournful notes of “Taps,” hanging onto the last note until it slowly dissolves into history.   The crowd disperses while I wait under the tree. Stillness returns. Slowly, I begin to walk the uniform rows of gravestones. The magnitude of what we have asked of our soldiers and the grief these families are going through comes quickly into focus. I realize that for the first time ever, I am standing in the graveyard of a war in progress. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). Prayer: Father, remind me that liberty never travels without its companion, sacrifice, and that sacrifice never travels without love. When I am tempted to forget the sacrifices of others on my behalf, remind me that even You paid the ultimate price for my freedom – the life of your only Son because You loved me. *This devotion is an excerpt from Stories of Faith and Courage from the War in Iraq and Afghanistan (AMG Publishers 2009).

The 150th Anniversary of TAPS

Thu, 2012-05-24 10:31 -- Jocelyn Green
A note from Jocelyn: Last summer, I visited Virginia's Peninsula to research my Civil War novel, Wedded to War. While there, I stayed with Linda Montgomery, the editor of ExcellentorPraiseworthy.org, the devotional Web site of Campus Crusade's Military Ministry. In honor of Memorial Day, I want to share with you an article by Linda about the origin and meaning of "Taps." It first appeared at ExcellentorPraiseworthy.org.  July 2012 marks the 150th anniversary of Taps, as it was written after the Seven Days Battle (which appears in Wedded to War). Where can I go from Your Spirit? Where can I flee from Your presence? If I go up to the heavens, You are there; if I make my bed in the depths, You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast. — Psalm 139:7-10 For me, the story of “Taps” is a local story because I live close to where it was composed. I could easily drive to Berkeley Plantation in Virginia, where there is a monument marking the “birthplace” of Taps. Tour guides will tell you that the haunting 24-note bugle call is actually a revision of a French call to signal to the troops the end of the day and “lights out.” The story goes like this: “In of July of 1862, in the aftermath of the bloody Seven Days battles (Peninsular campaign), hard on the loss of 600 men and wounded himself, Union General Daniel Adams Butterfield called the brigade bugler to his tent. . . .Oliver Wilcox Norton, the bugler, tells the story, ‘. . . showing me some notes on a staff written in pencil on the back of an envelope (some accounts say that Butterfield hummed it to Norton), (he) asked me to sound them on my bugle. I did this several times, playing the music as written. He changed it somewhat, lengthening some notes and shortening others, but retaining the melody as he first gave it to me. After getting it to his satisfaction, he directed me to sound that call for Taps thereafter in place of the regulation call. The music was beautiful on that still summer night and was heard far beyond the limits of our Brigade. The next day I was visited by several buglers from neighboring Brigades, asking for copies of the music which I gladly furnished. The call was gradually taken up through the Army of the Potomac.’” From “History of Taps.” Savage's Station, Virginia, June 30, 1862, Union field hospital during and after the Seven Days Battle. Photo courtesy: Library of Congress   Not long after Taps was composed, it was used for the first time at a military funeral. Union Captain John Tidball, commander of an artillery battery, had it played for the burial of a cannoneer killed in action (during the Peninsular Campaign) because the traditional three-rifle volleys fired over the grave might have alerted the enemy nearby. This event is commemorated in a stained glass window at The Chapel of the Centurion, also nearby at Ft. Monroe. Ten months after it was written, Taps was played at the funeral of Confederate General “Stonewall” Jackson. By 1874 Taps was officially recognized by the U.S. Army and was required to be played at military funerals by 1891. Taps is played throughout our nation on Memorial Day as it is traditionally sounded at funerals, wreath-laying, and memorial services. In order to honor those who died in service to our country, giving the ultimate sacrifice—Taps is played in remembrance of all of those who have insured our precious freedom. While we are hearing the strains perhaps you can also remember the words which are associated with the bugle call. While these lyrics are not “official,” the first verse is commonly sung with these words: “Day is done, gone the sun, From the hills, from the lake, From the sky. All is well, safely rest, God is nigh.” God is nigh. The definition of “nigh” is “near in space, time, or relation.” The American College Dictionary, 1955. God is near: You are near, O LORD, and all Your commandments are truth. — Psalm 119:151 The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. — Psalm 34:18 But as for me, the nearness of God is my good; I have made the Lord GOD my refuge, that I may tell of all Your works. — Psalm 73:28 The LORD is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth. — Psalm 145:18 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. — Philippians 4:5 The last verse of Taps, traditionally, is similar to the first verse: “Thanks and praise, For our days, ‘Neath the sun, ‘Neath the stars, ‘Neath the sky, As we go, This we know, God is nigh.” Is there any doubt in your mind and heart that God is near, during deployment? Even during the lowly conditions of war in 1862, God was there. Jari A. Villanueva is a bugler and bugle historian, considered the country’s foremost authority on Taps. He wrote: “.. . it is hard to believe that Butterfield could have composed anything that July in the aftermath of the Seven Days battles which saw the Union Army of the Potomac mangled by Lee’s Army of Northern Virgina. Over twenty six thousand casualties were suffered on both sides. . . . In the midst of the heat, humidity, mud, mosquitoes, dysentery, typhoid and general wretchedness of camp life in that early July, it is hard to imagine being able to write anything.” From “24 Notes that Tap Deep Emotions”. But write it (or revise it) he did, and Butterfield’s desire to honor his soldiers is forever the way that we seek to honor our brave soldiers. The Scripture from Psalm 139 is a reminder of what we declare in the singing of Taps. With a lump in our throats and perhaps tears in our eyes, we remember this Memorial Day, with grateful hearts, those courageous patriots who have gone before us in battle. . . . and we remember that our God is faithful . . . . and near. Questions to Share: 1. What thoughts come to your mind when you hear Taps? 2. On this Memorial Day, is there someone who served our country whom you could tell your spouse about as a way of honoring them? Note:  Additional information on Taps is available at www.tapsbugler.com
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