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Escaping our Prisons: Burial or Rebirth?

Tue, 2015-03-03 12:29 -- Jocelyn Green
In Spy of Richmond, one of my main characters is an inmate of Libby Prison and tries to escape. As he is desperately digging through a dark tunnel with very little oxygen, and making barely any progress, one of my characters tells himself, “This is not a grave, it is rebirth.” Isn’t this true for whatever we must overcome in our own lives? When we’re in the midst of a trial that seems to imprison us, we may be isolated, in the dark, and gasping for breath. It might feel like our burial. But with God’s help, that dark place can really be a tunnel to get us to a new place of rebirth. *Read about  my own dark tunnel here, on The Borrowed Book blog. * More on the Libby Prison Breakout here. Spy of Richmond (Heroines Behind the Lines Civil War Book 4) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1156", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft size-full wp-image-2014", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"125", "height":"193", "alt":"125Spycover"}}]]432 pages, softcover*  Is living a lie ever the right thing to do? The Confederate capital in the height of the Civil War: no place for a Union loyalist. But just the place for a spy. Her father a slaveholder, her suitor a Confederate officer, and herself an abolitionist, Sophie Kent must walk a tightrope of deception in her efforts to end slavery. As suspicion in Richmond rises, Sophie’s espionage becomes more and more dangerous. If her courage will carry her through, what will be lost along the way—her true love, her father, her life?        [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1157", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignnone wp-image-2768 size-full", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"134", "height":"45", "alt":"add-to-goodreads-button"}}]]  

One More Night with the Frogs

Sun, 2014-12-28 06:00 -- Jocelyn Green
As we approach the New Year, discussions are now shifting from Christmas celebrations to new beginnings. The "new beginnings" we choose for ourselves we call resolutions this time of year.  But then, some new beginnings we simply call change. And change is hard. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1107", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignright size-medium wp-image-2546", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"206", "height":"300", "alt":"foundart"}}]]One of my favorite memoirs is Found Art: Discovering Beauty in Foreign Places (Zondervan) by Leeana Tankersley. She wrote this book based on her first year of marriage to a Navy SEAL. They married in San Diego and eight days later forged a new beginning together in Bahrain. Talk about change! I love how she describes it: “Change is horribly uncomfortable. Like the wrong pair of jeans, change pinches and squeezes in the most inconvenient places. A lot of wriggling and writhing is involved. Maybe even some sucking in and prone posturing. Just when you think you’ve fit in, you realize you’re spilling over the top and sides in the worst way. Very, very little ease.” (Found Art, p. 19) Strangely enough, even when the change will be good for us, it can still be hard. Remember the story about Moses calling down all sorts of awful plagues on Pharaoh in order to convince him to release the Jewish people from slavery? The second plague was frogs. Exodus 8 tells us that they came up out of the water and covered the land. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1108", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2545", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"550", "height":"367", "alt":"frog"}}]] Pharaoh pleaded with Moses to ask God to make them go away. “Moses said to Pharaoh, ‘Be pleased to command me when I am to plead for you and for your servants and for your people, that the frogs be cut off from you and your houses and be left only in the Nile.’ And he said, ‘Tomorrow.’” (Exodus 8:9,10) Tomorrow? Really? If it were me, I’m pretty sure I would have said, “Right now!” Wouldn’t you? The Bible doesn’t tell us exactly why Pharaoh wanted to keep the swarming, slimy frogs around that night. Did he think they were cute?  The decision is shocking to me. But perhaps there is a lesson to be learned from the frogs and how they relate to the changes we need to make in our own lives. How many times have you thought about a bad habit you’d like to break or a new discipline you’d like to develop in yourself, but decided to put it off? I know I’ve done this more often than I’d care to admit. For some reason, even if we know our habits (frogs) are bad for us, it’s easier to keep them around than to make a change. Maybe, just maybe, those little frogs start to seem like pets after a while. Could it be that after we’ve had our habits for some time, we don’t mind them anymore? The new beginnings that happen to us, we can’t do much about. The new beginnings which happen within us, however—those are completely up to us. If there’s something you need to change in your own life, don’t wait until next January rolls around to make a New Year’s resolution. Don’t spend one more night with the frogs, like Pharaoh did. Ask God to help you (claim Philippians 4:13!). Make that change and watch as a new beginning –a very positive one—emerges for you.

When Christmas Is Hard

Thu, 2014-12-18 05:00 -- Jocelyn Green
[[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1116", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft size-medium wp-image-2620", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"264", "height":"300", "alt":"Hard-Christmas"}}]]I hope your Christmas season is full of peace and joy! But I know that's not possible for everyone, every year. Not every December is brimming with happiness, or neatly wrapped and tied with a bow, is it? Some years, it's just plain hard. If you find yourself in this season right now, this blog post is for you. Today I'm pleased to have Bettina Dowell as a guest with us, sharing from her heart on a difficult subject: In my senior year of high school, my family was celebrating the holidays and preparing for Christmas much as we had every other year. The house was decorated, presents purchased, wrapped and under the tree, groceries being laid in for holiday feasts and parties being attended. Everything changed for us in an instant that holiday when my fifteen-year-old only brother was suddenly killed in an accident three days before Christmas. Having a funeral for a teenager is never easy, but something becomes extra difficult when you have to rush in order to complete it before Christmas Eve. The shock of the loss echoed not only through my family, but throughout our small town. Some students, who were my friends at the high school, were unable to complete their exams as they dealt with the shock of what had occurred. Students at the junior high had to deal with the blow of coming to school and looking at an empty seat that had just the day before been full. Our church was a large community in a smaller town. Not only did they struggle with the loss of my brother, but we also lost a young mom of three small children to cancer that same weekend. The pain of it all seemed too much to bear. These were the circumstances my pastor had to face that Christmas Eve when he stepped in the pulpit. It is difficult to imagine the task Bro. Wilson had as he looked on our congregation. What do you say in a season that is supposed to be filled with joy yet is reeking with so much pain? Though I cannot give you exact quotations these many years later, I will never forget the message he brought that day. Christmas is not always a time of joy. Sometimes it is a day of pain. But whether it is a day of pain or a day of joy, there is something we must never forget. Jesus still came. Jesus still comes. In the midst of our brightest shining moments or in the midst of the darkest pain, Jesus comes. [Tweet "In the midst of our brightest shining moments or in the midst of the darkest pain, Jesus comes."] So where does Christmas find you this year? Are you struggling with estrangement from a loved one, unemployment, missing a spouse or child who is away from home, serious illness, loss of a loved one or a difficulty that no one knows but you? Do the carols that once brought joy to your heart bring tears to your eyes this season? May I encourage you today as Bro. Wilson encouraged me those many years ago? [Tweet "Wherever Christmas finds you, Jesus still comes. "] Wherever Christmas finds you, Jesus still comes. And because He came, your pain is not in vain. Nor is it the end of your story. Jesus came to die and pay the price for the wrongs that separate us from God. Because He came, we can accept His payment for the bill we owe. And when we accept that payment, this is what we will be a part of one day: For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their Shepherd; He will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Revelation 7:17 (NIV) And Christmas will be hard no more. About the Author: Through years of interacting with women and their families, God has developed a passion in Bettina’s heart for women to accept and embrace their identity in Christ as His princesses.  She believes that when women truly know who they are in Christ, it affects how they live their daily lives.  God trains her graciously through His word and very often through her own many mistakes. Bettina is married to a very handsome (now retired) naval reserve officer, Cdr. Rob Dowell, and they live outside Washington, D.C.

20 Gifts for Book Lovers

Mon, 2014-12-01 09:30 -- Jocelyn Green
A few weeks ago, I had 75 minutes to myself and asked my Facebook page friends what I should do with that time. Should I clean? Do laundry? Wash dishes? Bake something? Read? Overwhelmingly, the answer was that I should READ. (I knew we were all kindred spirits!) And so, because I know you and I share this unbridled love for books, I thought I'd share the following with you. Up front: No, I do not get a commission from Bas Bleu. But I stumbled upon their catalog and could not help but circle something on almost every page. With a tag line of "Champion of the odd little book. . .and a wellspring of inspired gifts for readers"--is it any wonder? So allow me to share my favorite 20 gifts for book lovers here. Treat yourself. Treat someone you love. Literary gifts are always in season. (Click the images to visit the corresponding online catalog pages at Bas Bleu.) 1. Anguished English: An Anthology of Accidental Assaults Upon the English Language ($9.99) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1052", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2293", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic1"}}]] This looks hysterical. Example: Stock up and save. Limit: one. I think I need to have this for writers workshop material. 2. Shelves Runneth Over Sleep Shirt ($27.00) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1053", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2294", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic2"}}]]   3. From the Library of. . . Stamp ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1054", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2295", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic3"}}]]   4. Music for Book Lovers Boxed 2-CD Set ($24.99)   [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1055", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2296", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic4"}}]] 5. Shakespearean Insults Mug ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1056", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2271", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic5"}}]]   6. Reading Woman Note Cards ($15.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1057", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2272", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"300", "height":"300", "alt":"pic6"}}]]   7. Literary Mug- Mark Twain ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1058", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2280", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic7a"}}]]   8. Literary Mug - Jane Austen ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1059", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2276", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic8"}}]] 9. Literary Mug - Edgar Allen Poe ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1060", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2277", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic9"}}]] 10. Library Card Tote Bag ($24.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1061", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2281", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic10"}}]]   11. Novel Teas ($12.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1062", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2282", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic11"}}]]   12. The Reading Woman Wall Calendar ($14.99) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1063", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2283", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic12"}}]]   13. 2015 Reading Woman Engagement Calendar ($15.99) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1064", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2284", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic13"}}]]   14. Book Nut Women's Sleep Shirt ($27.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1065", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2285", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic14"}}]]   15. Tea & Books Tea Towels ($19.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1066", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2286", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic15"}}]]   16. Tea & Books Spiced Mug Mats ($19.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1067", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2287", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic16"}}]]   17. Hardcover Book: Libraries ($70) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1068", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2288", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic17"}}]] 18. Stack of Books Ornament ($9.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1069", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2289", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic18"}}]] 19. The Greatest First Lines of Literature Ever Mug ($13.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1070", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2290", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic19"}}]] 20. Pocket Lighted Magnifier ($9.95) [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1071", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2291", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"460", "height":"460", "alt":"pic20"}}]] Which one(s) is (are) your favorite?

Hospitality is Not a Performance

Mon, 2014-11-17 09:30 -- Jocelyn Green
[[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1047", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft size-medium wp-image-1760", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"224", "height":"300", "alt":"turkey table2"}}]]It had started out simple enough. My friend Mindelynn and I decided to host the holiday feast from my apartment near Washington, D.C. for my brother Jason, and my boyfriend Rob. Then we added four more guests, and decided to really let our domestic talents shine. One problem—we had only been out of college a couple years, and living in the nation’s fast-paced capital left little time to develop those domestic talents we were sure we had. Somewhere. To compensate, we started planning weeks in advance. During our lunch breaks we’d visit MarthaStewart.com looking for the perfect centerpiece, the proper table setting, ideas on creative place cards, etc. By Monday, the invitations had been sent, the groceries had been purchased, the crystal was washed and ready to go. I had even bought my first ever tablecloth and linen napkins for the occasion. On Tuesday, we learned of four additional guests: my boyfriend’s father, sister, niece and nephew who would drive up from Florida to meet me for the first time. I was convinced that their approval of me as suitable life partner for Rob would hinge solely upon my domestic performance. Now planning for a party of 12 (including seven out-of-towners and two children), Mindelynn and I began to panic. “We only have service for eight!” we fretted. “The turkey is too small! We need another table, more chairs! More food! More time! What do kids eat? We have no toys! Should we buy a ball?” Two days before Thanksgiving, I was void of all holiday spirit. What had begun as an adventure in hospitality seemed to take a turn toward an impossible standard and I was sure I was about to fail quite publicly. I know now what I didn't then: I had mistaken "entertaining" for "hospitality." In her book Isn't it Time for a Coffee Break?, author Amelia Rhodes describes the difference well: [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1048", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignright size-medium wp-image-2457", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"194", "height":"300", "alt":"coffeebreakbook"}}]]Entertaining puts on a show with the hostess as the star, showcasing her home, her possessions, her cooking (or ability to hire a caterer), with the intention of impressing. It has no room for error and absolutely everything must be perfect. . . .The entertaining hostess wants to be seen for how put together she is, with the illusion that this is the way life always is. Hospitality is focused solely on the guest's needs and comfort. The hospitality hostess desires to express how much she values her guests, thereby showing how much God loves and values them. (pages 95-96) As it turned out, there wasn't anything on the Martha Stewart website about this. Thankfully, we decided to turn to another source of advice: our moms. Instead of sharing our concern that we didn't have enough platters, space, or experience, they gently pointed out a few other things we didn’t have enough of: prayer, grace, compassion, peace and love. We were so wrapped up in the details of preparation that we neglected to focus on the well-being of our guests. The comfort of the guest, we learned, is what hospitality is really all about; and that depends upon more than the table setting and the food (no offense, Martha). It depends on our personal interaction with them. [Tweet "Rather than trying to impress our guests, we learned how to love them."] Rather than trying to impress guests, our moms taught us how to love them. Following Martha’s advice turned hospitality into a performance; but with the advice of our moms, hospitality became a ministry. Here are their top ten tips on caring for your company, the real heart of hospitality: 1) Pray for your guests before they arrive. 2) Create the seating arrangement according to what guests have in common with each other. 3) When your guests arrive, leave the kitchen preparations for 10-15 minutes while you welcome them. Let them help you in the kitchen if they want to, but if you are more comfortable working solo, tell them you’d rather they just relax. 4) Ask specific questions of the guests that are shy to help draw them out. 5) Bring up conversation topics that will include the majority of those present. Avoid topics that would stir up dissension among the group. 6) Enjoy yourself! If you are on edge, your guests will be, too. 7) Ask out-of-town guests if there are any amenities they need but left at home. 8) Use the comfortable environment you have created as a setting for sharing what God has done in your lives. 9) Encourage conversation even after the meal is finished. Move the group into the living room for more comfortable seating. 10) Send leftovers home with guests. They will feel cared for, and the food will serve as a reminder of the fellowship they had with you. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1049", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2199", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"610", "height":"305", "alt":"MTL-JocelynGreen1-610x305"}}]] I doubt that anyone who attended our Thanksgiving Feast that year recalls the color of the napkins or the centerpiece we created with cranberries and floating candles. But I do know they will always remember the day one tiny apartment held the fellowship and laughter of 12 people hailing from North Dakota, Philadelphia, Washington, D.C., Virginia and Florida. [Tweet "Hospitality is not a performance."] I’m no longer a 20-something with a career on Capitol Hill. I’m a 30-something homeschooling mom who would rather write books than fold the laundry, and I’ve had to seriously revise my definition of a presentable home. My instinct still leans toward the “put together” variety of hospitality, but my husband Rob reminds me it’s better to serve frozen pizza on paper plates with toys under the table than to not invite people into our home and lives until the house is clean (which is always “after the next book deadline”). He’s right. May our heart’s desire be not to simulate the pages of a magazine, but to listen to our guests, to share in their triumphs and struggles, even when the house is messy. After all, so is life.

Waves of Inspiration for a Little Girl's Birthday

Wed, 2014-11-12 08:30 -- Jocelyn Green
[[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1103", "attributes":{"class":"media-image wp-image-2526 size-full", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"600", "height":"400", "alt":"waveyandmatt"}}]] Photo courtesy of Megan Rund Photography   A very special little girl named Waverly is going to celebrate her eleventh birthday on Saturday, November 15, and her parents have invited you to help celebrate. They aren't asking for cards, or money, or balloons or gifts or cupcakes. All they're asking for is a little kindness--and not even toward them. Before I explain, allow me to introduce you to Matt and Shannon McNeil. I went to college with them, but since graduation, their lives took a turn no one could have imagined: For more about their story, listen to this piece on the McNeil family which aired on NPR: Northern Virginia Father Writes His Way to Hope. Last year, for Waverly's tenth birthday, she received more than one thousand cards! This year, the McNeils have decided to skip the cards and ask for kindness instead. From the Wavey Inspires Facebook page: [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1104", "attributes":{"class":"media-image wp-image-2528 size-medium", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"300", "height":"300", "alt":"waveynotsmiling"}}]] Photo courtesy of Megan Rund Photography   For most parents, celebrating a child's birthday is a day of joy and laughter. The McNeils strive to make every day one of celebration for Waverly, as she has a genetic condition that has a lifespan of 12-18 years. As Waverly gets closer to that milestone, her friends and family lift her up in celebration. In an effort to honor her on her special day, we are asking our friends to help us. We would like each of you to reach out to a family in your neighborhood, school, church, community who has a child with special needs. **Introduce yourself. Have your child make them a card. Buy a cup of coffee or a gift card.** Having a child with special needs can feel very isolating for some families. A smile and a friendly gesture can mean the world to them. We would love to see "Waves of Inclusion" across the world. Shannon adds: "If you have a good idea, please share it on the Wavey Inspires FB page. We'd love to hear stories of your kindness to others; remember, it's not bragging, it's inspiring!!!" [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1105", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft wp-image-2529 size-medium", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"300", "height":"300", "alt":"waveysmiles"}}]] Friends, let's do this. The McNeils aren't asking us to donate money to find a cure for San Filippo Syndrome. They aren't even asking us to buy copies of Matt's children's book, proceeds of which go toward research for a cure. (But I will. Buy Matt's book, The Strange Tale of Ben Beesley. It's part memoir, part allegory, all adventure. But in this tale, Waverly and Oliver get cured.) Let's be part of the Wave of Inclusion. There are families struggling with special needs in our communities. Let's be kind. Let's make sure they know they aren't as alone as they feel. Let's bring smiles to their faces, and then tell Wavey and her family about it so they can smile, too. Either post on their Facebook page, or if you don't do Facebook, leave a comment here on this blog post and I'll make sure they get the message! Shannon and Matt are looking for pieces of beauty and grace on this journey with their children. Let's serve it up. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1106", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter size-full wp-image-2527", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"524", "height":"350", "alt":"waveyandsoldier"}}]] #WaveyInspires! If you do nothing else, please share this blog post using the buttons below. If you are the parent of a child with special needs, please share in the comments below what a sort of gesture of kindness would be welcome to your family. Visit the McNeil Family blog here.

Carpe Diem? Seizing the Day Exhausts Me

Mon, 2014-11-10 08:30 -- Jocelyn Green
One of my all-time favorite movies is Dead Poets Society. As an English major in college, I fell in love with the film for obvious reasons, and I still hold it in high esteem. Several scenes are etched into my memory, including this stirring one below: Carpe Diem! Yes! Are you excited right now to seize the day?? If I was still in college right now, I'd jump up and shout "yes!" [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1074", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignright size-full wp-image-2460", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"320", "height":"180", "alt":"deadpoetssociety1"}}]]But I'm not in college anymore. I'm a homeschooling mom, a wife to a dear husband who has a full-time job and is in graduate school, and a writer. I feel like I seize a lot of days. It's exhausting. To be honest, I don't even know what carpe diem should look like in my current stage of life. Does it mean tackle my to-do list like a banshee? Stay up all night working? Or does it mean putting the urgent on hold so I can take the kids to the park and live in the moment? Near the end of the scene above, Professor Keating (Robin Williams) tells the students to make their lives extraordinary. I love that. I would love to do that, too. However, Keating leaves out the less exciting fact--that much of our days are made up of the very ordinary. We take out the trash. Pack lunches. Change diapers. Drill multiplication tables. Supervise violin or piano practice. Referee sibling squables. Wash dishes and clothes that will never, no not ever, stay clean. Or maybe you are in college, and keeping up with exams and papers is all you can do. Perhaps you find yourself in a season of care-giving for a spouse or grandchildren. No matter our stage of life, what does carpe diem look like here in the real world? [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1075", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft wp-image-2313 size-full", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"267", "height":"400", "alt":"holyisday"}}]]I recently finished reading Holy Is the Day by Carolyn Weber (five stars, two thumbs up, etc.), and she has these enlightening words to say on the matter: “Perhaps the answer lies in when carpe diem evokes worship, when it is a form of honoring the God who is honoring us with his presence. Put another way, when carpe diem becomes carpe Deum, or, translated loosely for our purposes here, ‘Seize God!' . . .Replace carpe diem with carpe Deum and you move away from the ledge of self-absorption, from the temptation of falling into spiritual immaturity epitomized by so many things in the sinful nature of self, but especially by the self-serving pleasure principle. In subtle contrast, carpe Deum grasps at God. It seeks righteousness. It touches the robe. It holds onto the Lord and refuses to let go” (pages 97, 99). I love this! Seize God! This is something we can all do everyday, can't we? No matter what our occupation or pay grade, no matter if we feel ordinary or extraordinary, the exhortation to carpe Deum makes so much more sense to me. I hope this encourages you, today, too. I'm more of a Martha than a Mary, so being task-oriented comes naturally to me. What I need to remember is this: the measure of our extraordinariness (not a word, I know) is not how much productivity we wring from our day. But when we sieze God--when we hold onto the Lord and seek to honor Him--our day will never be ordinary. Carpe Deum!  

It's Military Family Appreciation Month! How to Express Your Gratitude

Mon, 2014-11-03 08:35 -- Jocelyn Green
Did you know that November is officially Military Family Appreciation Month? As a former military wife myself, I'm happy about this opportunity to recognize our brave men and women and their families. But what does it really mean? From Military.com: Each year the President signs a proclamation declaring November Military Family Month. This annual proclamation marks the beginning of a month-long celebration of the Military Family in which the Department of Defense and the nation will honor the commitment and sacrifices made by the families of the nation's servicemembers. (Read more here.) I certainly appreciate the Department of Defense's (and "the nation's") recognition of military families. But do you know what's even more powerful than video tributes and PSAs, resolutions and proclomations? You and me, showing appreciation in personal ways to the military families we know. Please, let's not leave honoring the military up to the Department of Defense this month, or any other month of the year. It can never replace what neighbors, churches, and fellow citizens can do for one another.  My friend, Army wife Benita Koeman says, “I adopted a genuine ‘I can do this’ attitude about the second deployment. But I couldn’t do it alone, and most good intentions to help from the people we love fell by the wayside. As I struggled to take care of our young children (ages two, four and six years old), I felt alone and abandoned. At one point I bordered depression. I tried my best to smile, to fake like all was okay and to convince myself it was. But it wasn’t.” The evidence for military families in need isn’t just anecdotal. A large-scale study published in January 2010 in the New England Journal of Medicine looked at electronic medical data for more than 250,000 of the nearly 300,000 women whose active-duty husbands were deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan from 2003 to 2006. The study found that 36.6 percent of women whose husbands had deployed had at least one mental-health diagnosis, such as depression, or an anxiety or sleep disorder And let’s remember- these are just the results of those with official diagnoses. Many women resist seeking help for the same reason their husbands in uniform do—they fear a negative stigma. “Besides fear for the safety of their loved ones, spouses of deployed personnel often face challenges of maintaining a household, coping as a single parent and experiencing marital strain due to a deployment-induced separation of an uncertain duration,” the study says. But you don’t need a mental illness diagnosis to need a helping hand. “I really needed signs to know that as I struggled, that people cared, cared enough to do something,” says Koeman. “But I did not get that.” As a result of her experience, she founded the Web site www.OperationWeAreHere.com, to serve as a clearinghouse of resources and ideas for how to support military families. So what can you do for the home front in honor of National Military Family Month? Quite a bit, as it turns out. Here are some ideas to consider year-round.   Get Your Church Involved With record numbers of troops deployed or returned from the current war, most churches are in a perfect position to minister to families of either Active Duty, Reserves, or National Guard service members. Here are just a few ways to provide reinforcements: Send reverse care packages. Send care packages to the deployed members, and “reverse” care packages to the families on the home front. If possible, find out through email from the deployed spouse what he’d like his/her spouse and children to have for special holidays such as Valentine’s Day, birthdays, Christmas, etc. These are all days when a husband and father’s absence is felt the most keenly. Then make sure his family gets these items on the special days. Or simply put together a package for the home front members yourself to express your appreciation and support—whether it’s a gift card to Starbucks or a local spa, movie tickets or something else. Consider including one of these inspirational books for military. Offer a Military Night Out. Once a month, offer a Military Night Out where the church provides dinner and child care for children of the military member. The parents can go have a date night together, or if the spouse is deployed, the spouse at home can get a break from the kids and do errands, get together  with friends or just have some time to herself. Organize a returning veterans fellowship. Those coming home from combat need to be in fellowship with others who understand the special adjustment issues they will be facing. Often the military member doesn’t want to share all the details of combat with the spouse to protect the spouse from those images. Organize a simple gathering for veterans to benefit from being with others who understand exactly what they’re going through. Honor the troops. Watch the calendar and honor the troops around Memorial Day, Independence Day, and Veteran’s Day with special breakfasts for them or at least a mention from the pulpit. Show military members and their families (veterans included) that they are special. Take Personal Initiative No time to get a group together for an organized military ministry? No problem. Choose from this arsenal of ideas to personally support the military spouse at home. Create some coupons. Instead of simply telling a military spouse you’re willing to help, give her some specific ideas of what you can offer. Either give him/her a list of your services or create a coupon booklet for free babysitting, a coffee date, financial counseling, running errands, an hour or two of housework, etc. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1081", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignright size-full wp-image-2337", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"425", "height":"282", "alt":"cookie-care-package"}}]] Surprise the home front spouse. Make an ordinary day special by dropping off a basket of favorite foods, a great book, or new magazine and/or a movie rental you know the military spouse or kids have been wanting to see. Fix what’s broken. Find out what’s broken and fix it—or help tide the spouse at home over until a professional can make the repair. If her computer is down, let her use yours to email her spouse. If the washing machine is on the fritz, let her do a few loads at your house this week. If the car stopped running, offer to give (or arrange) rides. Get your hands dirty. For every season, there are jobs to be done outside. Pitch in when you can to mow the lawn, pull weeds, clean out gutters, shovel snow, or wash windows. Bring a meal. Providing a ready-to-eat (or ready-to-cook) dinner means one less thing an already stressed military spouse would have to think about. If you don’t have time for a full dinner, a homemade loaf of bread, muffins, or cookies would still be great. If you make freezer meals like I do, donating one (or more) to a military family is simple and effective. Make a call. Every so often, make a quick phone call to see how the family is getting along. Keep it brief, and leave a message if there’s no answer. Let her know you are there to support her, but be sensitive to the fact she may not want to talk long. Be there. Visiting is a great mood lifter, but ask first before showing up unannounced. Be consistent. Mark your calendars to send a small note or email or phone call on a regular basis—not just right after the spouse deploys. And don’t expect a response each time. Support that wife regardless of if she thanks you for every thoughtful gesture of yours. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1082", "attributes":{"class":"media-image alignleft wp-image-2338 size-full", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"200", "height":"300", "alt":"closeupwoman-praying"}}]] Pray. Pray for the one serving our country overseas, but also pray for those serving at home—the spouse and children. Pray for the entire family even after the spouse returns home, too! That re-entry adjustment period is often just as stressful as deployment. Find specific ways to pray for the service member here. Ideas for how to pray for the home front spouse are here. Supporting the military spouse allows him/her to support her active duty spouse and children in a way that only a spouse can. And knowing that the family is supported back home will allow the deployed spouse to better focus on his/her mission. When you minister to the military spouses and children, you are supporting the troops as well. Happy Military Family Appreciation Month! [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"1083", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter wp-image-2335 size-full", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"550", "height":"454", "alt":""}}]]

Life and Gardens: Not Everything Blooms at Once

Fri, 2014-05-30 09:27 -- Jocelyn Green
After an absolutely wretched winter, I appreciate the new life in my gardens more this spring than I probably ever have. Not everything survived our subzero weather. We lost six Hydrangea bushes, seven Spirea Magic Carpet shrubs, four Boxwood shrubs, and my Dwarf Burning Bush apparently fed the rabbits. But what we have left is very healthy. The more time I spend working in the gardens to keep them that way, the more I think I could write a devotional book just based on lessons learned from gardening. Jesus talked about being the vine, with us as the branches, and shared the parable about the sower's seed, among other plant-related stories. We've all heard "Stop and smell the roses" and "Bloom where you're planted," but even beyond those, the analogies between gardening and our own lives are obvious: Being uprooted and transplanted is harder for some than others. We have to take root below the surface before we can branch out and really bloom. Weeds, like sin, are easier to remove earlier rather than later. Weeds (sin) grow without even trying, but anything beautiful (fruit of the spirit) requires careful cultivation. When we cut away what's dead, new life can take it's place. Margin is a beautiful thing. Not everything blooms at once. When we dug out the dead Spirea that had been tucked between our spreading yews, I thought it would look empty to have more space. Instead, it looks orderly and calm, like a breath of fresh air. Being on a book deadline, I currently have no margin. Neither does my husband, since he just started grad school on top of his full-time job. And we can both testify to this truth: Margin is a beautiful thing. :) The truth that has given me the most comfort, however, is so simple, it's easy to miss: Not everything blooms at once. Isn't this true in our lives as well? Anyone who says we can "have it all" should remember that even if that were true, we cannot have it all at once. As my grandmother has reminded me, "Life is long, and has many parts." Not everything blooms at once. Right now, with no margin, I am grinding away toward a deadline. This means I have to say no to almost everything else. As much as I love writing, and love the finished product, my process is exhausting, lonely, and fraught with self-doubt. When I look at my garden and see the irises, salvia, and hardy geraniums in bloom, and nothing else, I remember, though, that this is what's blooming in my life right now. (Or maybe I'm planting it now, and the blooming part comes during the editorial stage--work with me. :) ) Generally, at least in the Midwest, blooms don't last long. Already, the white flowers on my crab tree and pear trees have blown away like snow. So the fact that not everything blooms at once gives us more of a chance to anticipate them, and enjoy them as they come. This, too, applies to life. Our seasons are temporary. We would do well to enjoy them as much as we can before they slip away. Well, friends, what's blooming in your life right now? Is it time with your children or grandchildren? An opportunity to minister? A job, or school? It might be something hidden, but still beautiful. What has God brought about for you to enjoy in this particular season? To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. ~Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (KJV)

My Gettysburg Trip Scrapbook

Mon, 2013-07-15 07:00 -- Jocelyn Green
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I've teamed up a couple of very talented ladies to bring you a remarkable give-away! Here's what we have for one lucky winner: A handmade baby quilt in patriotic colors, reminiscent of Liberty Holloway's baby quilt in Widow of Gettysburg. Only this one is color-coordinated and pinwheel-patterned. This is courtesy of my author friend Ann-Margret Hovsepian! (Connect with her on Facebook here.) A handmade doll modeled after Liberty Holloway, courtesy of another author friend, Pat Iacuzzi, who creates historical dolls like this one for museums. (Psst- Pat is running a concurrent give-away of a 15-inch Charlotte Waverly doll, plus Godiva chocolate, a silk fan, and a Currier & Ives print, so hop on over to her Hope Inspired Stories blog here! Charlotte is the heroine of Wedded to War, book 1 in the Heroines Behind the Lines series.) I'm throwing in two books: Farms at Gettysburg (self-explanatory) and The Civil War Sewing Circle, which not only has Civil War quilt patterns in it, but also photos and letters from Civil War couples that are sure to touch your heart regardless of whether you quilt. [[{"type":"media", "view_mode":"media_large", "fid":"973", "attributes":{"class":"media-image aligncenter wp-image-1574", "typeof":"foaf:Image", "style":"", "width":"614", "height":"614", "alt":"Gettysburg give-away final"}}]] To enter, please leave a comment sharing either 1) which photos you enjoyed the most from this blog post, or 2) something from your own trip to Gettysburg. For extra entries, you may: Share this blog post via Facebook, Twitter, and/or Pinterest. Here's a short link: http://wp.me/p1bLl3-pi "Like" my FB page Visit my Gettysburg Trip Scrapbook album on my Facebook page here and "share" one or more photos. (One point for each photo you share, so let me know how many you've done!) Sign up for my newsletter in the footer of this Web site The drawing will close at 11:59pm on Monday July 29. A winner will be selected using random.org. Good luck!

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